What Is The Point Of A Bridal Shower/ Bachelor Party?

By Ademola Adeyoju |

So you’re about to get married; you’re about to begin a completely new phase of your life, and you intend to make every single minute count (excuse the pun). You plan to have one last night of freedom, one last chance, one last opportunity to do whatever you want… whatever.

It’s cool


The bachelor party is an old, ancient tradition dating back to the 5th century, and the idea of a bachelorette party was launched in the 19th century, during the sexual revolution of the 1960s. They started out as mild occasions traditionally organized with a sense of modesty in honour of prospective grooms/brides.

But the modern idea of a bachelor/bachelorette party is totally different, and the images that come to mind when one hears the word ‘bachelor or bachelorette party’ aren’t so pretty. So you might want to think twice about organizing one.


Because dear reader, the risks are not worth the rewards - things can get out of hand, and fast; a little indiscretion can have long-term consequences, and what could have been a terrific marriage could get off to a terrible start? Don’t even get me started on how it’s both strange and absurd that prospective life partners choose to celebrate an imminent union that’s supposed to be all about mutual respect and deep commitment by having a night filled with booze, wild partying, harmless fun, and subtle infidelity.

Okay, maybe that was an exaggeration. But I’m sure you get the point!

Listen, a bachelor/bachelorette party is not in itself a bad idea, yet I wouldn’t recommend it because our human nature wouldn’t let us simply hang out with a bunch of guys (or girls, as the case may be), have a few drinks, enjoy the evening in a mild, sinless way, and head back home.

No, it’s not easy to stop there.

Excessiveness is in our DNA. We love to go over the top, to go all the way! It is not surprising therefore that bachelor/bachelorette parties usually end up becoming the outlet to let the demons out, indulge oneself, and venture into daring adventures married couples would never approve of. 

Call me old-school, but when you hear the horror stories, the tales of excesses, and the thoughtless, needless mistakes that come back to bite couples in the ass, then maybe, just maybe you can understand why it is not expedient to even take a chance.

If you’re about to get married, and you’ve been contemplating having a bachelor/bachelorette party, you might want to take a moment to reconsider! Do you really want to go down a path, the end of which you do not know? Is it really worth it?