I absolutely adore weddings and because of this, I never miss an opportunity to attend any wedding I think I would enjoy.  So over the weekend, I attended a friend's wedding. Yes, (covers face),  they are all getting married,  and I'm like "Lord, where is bae?"

 Luckily, I didn't have to travel out of Lagos for this one. It held in Surulere.

 Okay, so Fisayo's wedding was really nice. Her wedding dress was not so exceptional but it worked for her. Her makeup too was good. It was worth the whole hassle. Then the part I love the most in weddings came. You know that moment where the friends of the couple are asked to dance into the hall, after which the couple follow?  That is my best moment at any wedding.

 I love to dance, so I led the group. We were paired a lady to a guy, and I was lucky I got a partner that loved the dance floor too. We had been dancing for a while,  everybody in good spirits,  but it got to a time everybody began looking back,  expecting the couple to dance in but that didn't happen.

 I was shocked when i was told "The bride has refused to dance in."

 "Why?" I asked, and I was told "She specifically said she wanted the life band singing as she danced in, not the DJ playing."

 "Haa!" Everyone murmured.

 To my surprise, it was only when the band begun to play that my friend held lovingly by her husband, danced into the hall.

 That little incident almost ruined that wedding. It almost did, and you know why? Because just one wish of the bride had been neglected.

 In Naija, I have come to understand that during your own wedding, you barely have a say especially if you have lots and lots of relatives, both distant and near. Everybody suddenly has a say and no one wants to listen to you.

 Complaining after the wedding, my friend said, "My mum asked me to change my reception dress. She said it wasn't busy enough. I obliged her. She replaced the master of ceremony my husband had invited to someone else she liked.  And then look what she did with the music too!"

 Sincerely, Naija parents need to chill. Yes, we know you birthed these children. We know they are a huge part of your world, but on their big day, please learn  to give them a little breathing space. Allow them to make choices too. It not only relieves tension, it takes away unnecessary fights and malice.

 Do not crowd their space, listen to them, be flexible and peace would reign.