How To Talk About The Future Of Your Relationship With Your Partner

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Talking to your partner can help you find out if you and your significant other are on the same page about moving your relationship forward. It doesn't happen via text, email or any other techy way but with a good old-fashioned face-to-face conversation. You share and bare your feelings, and hopefully he’ll do the same in a positive way. Who knows, he might just pop the queston after thus conversation.

 

Invite him for some TLC

Break the routine! Invite him to a night at home filled with TLC. When you do, tell him with a smile that you miss him, miss us and want to connect and talk without the usual distractions. If he has another idea how to do the same, that’s fine, too. Keep the tone of the invite open and loving, light versus heavy, to limit your pre-stress and his anxiety over what’s up. Remember, it’s important he knows that this isn’t simply a romantic dinner, it’s a time for you both to catch up and talk.

Start with the positive

Pour a glass of wine and toast the two of you, but don’t overindulge or start drinking too early. You don’t want the wine to cause you to have loose lips or trigger tears! Then just hug him and say something sweet, like, "Honey, I’m so glad we’re doing this.” No drama, no negatives and no creating an atmosphere where he feels like he’s on trial. I’ve always been a big fan of holding hands. It’s such a simple act, but it connects two people instantly, giving each a feeling of love, comfort, connectivity and closeness. So reach for his hand and hold it as you speak.

Speak from the heart

I learned a long time ago you can never go wrong when you speak with love instead of anger and hurt. Being honest is hard, and it’s OK if you stumble and cry. It’s pure. It’s genuine. Now’s the time to ask the hard questions and share what you really want. Let him know you want to spend your life with him and plan for it together — with real actionable steps. Ask him if he wants the same thing. If the answers are yes, you go, girl! Jump into his arms, hug and kiss him all over, make love — do whatever feels right to show him how happy you are

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