Some months back, I attended a friend's wedding in Ondo State. The atmosphere was regal; our aso-ebi was on point and the bridal shower which had held the previous day had been a success. However, the reception which was held at a very cosy venue not too far from the church and which was supposed to be a jolly affair turned out to be a nightmare which I never enjoyed.

On the table where I sat was another friend of ours who had nothing but hateful comments to make about the proceedings:

 "See how her reception dress looks. It is so plain and too homely! I told her not to wear that colour."

 "Hear how wack the music sounds. I told her to use a live band."

 "Her M.c is so inexperienced. I told her my cousin is into ceremonies."

 "I don't know why she didn't use the make up artist I suggested. See how her face runs."

 It was one complain after the other. At some point, I was forced to ask her in anger:

 "But it was just an advice,  wasn't it?  You suggested it and it was left to her to take or leave it. Why are you so angry? When your turn comes, use your advice!"

 To my greatest annoyance, she didn't stop her rants. We were to stay over at her parent's place and she brought up these issues again.  This time around, her mum contributed and even chipped in an insult or two directed at the bride and her family.

 "See how clumsy her 'Alaga Ijoko' was at her engagement. I was so embarrassed." Her mother said in Yoruba, to which she responded: "Shebi I told them you can do it very well. They refused."

 One way or the other, I managed to keep my mouth shut till I left.

 But sincerely, this shouldn't be. Why must you decide what your friend or relative's wedding should look like?  It isn't a must that they take your advice so do not spoil another person's ceremony just because you think your ego needs a little lift. An advice is what it is.

 Live and let live!