Image: Kontrolmagazine
As if you weren’t already bothered enough about making a good first impression, wearing the right outfit or choosing the right place to meet on a first date, worrying about what to say can be downright stressful. Not everyone is lucky enough to be a pro at socializing. Even if you are a master in the art of conversing, things can go awry real quick if you don’t avoid these topics.
- Exes: I bet you already knew this, but in case you didn’t, talking to your new date about your ex is a no-no! There is nothing more disrespectful than a man or woman who rambles on and on about an ex on the first date(or any other time sef). Aunty, if you know that you’re not over your last relationship, don’t go on any dates till you’re ready. You’ll probably end up using him as a rebound for your broken heart.
- Family Problems: So your father left your mother when you were 12 or your dog just died. Eeyah, we are so sorry to hear that, but it’s not exactly appropriate first date conversation. You don’t want your date thinking you’re damaged goods or worse turn the whole affair into a pity party. Don’t unburden yourself on his or her arms on the first date. It sets a terrible pace and that might just be the last time you’ll see them.
- Religious biases: I know a lady who told me about how she criticized a particular church for minutes on the first date only for the guy to admit that his mother was a member of that church, she was so embarrassed and had to apologize profusely before leaving. Naturally, she never heard from her date again. This brings me to the importance of making sure you don’t discuss religious biases on the first date, over time you will see where your date leans towards religiously then you can start opening up more.
- Sexual status: I personally get angry when a man talks about his sexual conquests on the first date. Women aren’t exempted either, why on earth should your sexual life be discussed on the first date? Try to keep a lid on it till the awkwardness dies and you are both free to be as naughty as you like.
- Financial Aid: If you’ve ever done this on a first date, I’m pretty sure you are reading this and remembering the awful ending that date had. Under no circumstances should you ask for financial assistance from your date. Even if you somehow end up stranded, phone a trusted friend and have them come bail you out. Asking for money gives off a nasty vibe and gets the “gold digger” alarms going off. As much as possible, appear financially stable. Ladies, pay for your own ride if you didn’t bring your car. Trust me; there is nothing more attractive than a capable woman.
Good luck on your date!