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Dear prospective groom, I know that writers are biased towards the bride. Almost all wedding articles talk about the bride and the bridesmaids. For some reason, we almost always exempt you from the conversation. But grooms need advice too!
Therefore, I dedicate this piece to you…
Now, have you ever wondered why the man is called the bride-groom, but the woman is not called the groom-bride? Well, it‟s because a man has a grooming responsibility towards the wife that she doesn‟t have to reciprocate. Hehe, you think getting down on one knee was all you needed to do?
I know: the equation is not balanced, and the logic is not fair. But hey, what can you do? So, before you go ahead and tie the knots, take a moment to assimilate these points.
Do not Expect Your Wife to Change
Dear groom-to-be, know that marriage is about "compromises‟ and deep understanding. So do not expect your wife to change a bit. The fact that she said “I do” doesn‟t grant you the right to change her into another
person. Any belief that she'll change for the better once you get married is cruel, extremely unfair, and unnecessarily stressful on your relationship. If you don‟t love her the way she is, don't get married to her. You might have noticed, but I'll say it all the same - people don‟t change. Not really.
Learn to Date Your Wife
You know how you were constantly trying to win her over before she said “yes”? How you were always looking for an opportunity to impress her? Well Mr, don't stop once you get married! Keep dating your wife. Plan pleasant surprises; clean up the apartment; show up at her workplace with flowers; Wake up early and prepare breakfast before she even gets up. She'll love you more. You'll see.
Do not take Your Wife for Granted.
This is one of the most common mistakes that married people make. I know that it's easy to get complacent, to relax when a lady is completely yours. This is a trap that you must avoid by all means! She has married you, not sold herself into slavery. You're the only reason she has left her family, her friends and her home. Appreciate her deeply; compliment her
often (you're her primary feedback source), take a walk together; listen to her, say “thank you” (don't just grunt and belch as gratitude for a great meal. Gross), and oh, do not forget your anniversary!
Never Forget Your Family
You know how your wife feels like she's giving up too much just to be with you? Well, your parents (especially your mother) feel a sense of loss also when you decide to leave them, and make someone else your priority. Be mature, be responsible, and learn to create a balance between your marriage and your family. Do not ignore your in-laws too.
Financial Issues are Sensitive Issues
It's always advisable that you have a steady source of income before you tie the knots because one of the immediate issues you will have to deal with once you get married is how to manage your finances. It's quite easy to get married – anyone could do that; what's not easy is being the breadwinner and taking care of mounting financial responsibilities
Your Wife is Your Partner, not Your Slave
Most people in this part of the world carry the wrong, brash mentality that the wife is supposed to be a willing, submissive, and obedient slave
that can be ordered around, whose opinions doesn't really count, and who needs her husband's consent before she breathes, shit or pee. This is 17th century thinking. It's a wicked mentality. Do not fall into this category of thinkers. Be a calm, dignified gentleman. Respect your wife's opinions and decisions just as you expect her to respect yours.
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